I think you all are turning into a little bit of an echo chamber. Clearly anon wasn't referring to it as a game. No-win is used for a lot of things that aren't treated as games. It's common slang to mean that no matter what they do, someone will criticize them for it. And I agree in this situation. Look, I think Andy is as big a slimeball there is. But the facts are that he was close with her. And you aren't inside his head. You don't know if he's actually grieving or not. Evil awful people can grieve.
I feel like there's this big "gotcha" mentality around him where if he posts over the top (because he does over the top crap, yes) emotionally about her, then GOTCHA Andy, you're using her death to manipulate him. If he doesn't post much about her, then GOTCHA Andy, you never really cared about her.
There are millions of other things that people can point to and talk about that actually happened, with the people he hurt clearly stating what he did. Talk about those. But Jesus, no matter how you feel about him, and no matter what you think lead to that, someone in his life died. Have some respect.
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I feel like there's this big "gotcha" mentality around him where if he posts over the top (because he does over the top crap, yes) emotionally about her, then GOTCHA Andy, you're using her death to manipulate him. If he doesn't post much about her, then GOTCHA Andy, you never really cared about her.
There are millions of other things that people can point to and talk about that actually happened, with the people he hurt clearly stating what he did. Talk about those. But Jesus, no matter how you feel about him, and no matter what you think lead to that, someone in his life died. Have some respect.