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[anonniemouse]

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Re: So what would it take?

[(Anonymous)]

Andy is suffering from the consequences of being exposed as the deliberate abuser he still is. There's nothing unfair or wrong with that.

Abbey and many others have been suffering from the consequences of having been abused by Andy. Now THAT is unfair and wrong.

If anything, Andy is getting off extremely lightly considering the true depth and horror of his abuse.

Re: So what would it take?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Oh, I agree -- that's why I asked the questions I did. I think there's a difference between unfair detrimental consequences and detrimental consequences, with the latter being primarily...just consequences, in my opinion. That example I used from my own life was meant to be an illustration of that -- losing friends during a period of bad mental health sucks, but it's not an unfair consequence. A consequence being "detrimental" doesn't necessarily mean it's unfair/unjust, is what I was getting at -- I should've been clearer.

Re: So what would it take?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Oh no, sorry, I didn't mean to imply that I disagree with you! I was just adding my thoughts to yours on that one particular topic.

I really like the way you put it here: "A consequence being "detrimental" doesn't necessarily mean it's unfair/unjust". That's it, exactly! And honestly, if psychological abuse could be recorded and prosecuted like physical abuse is, Andy would be facing MUCH more "detrimental" consequences - like jail time. So it's in really bad taste in my opinion for him or anyone around him to complain on that matter. He got away scots-free AND he still complains about the very minor consequences he has to face, when several of his victims ended up with PTSD? Fuck his selfish and completely compassion-deprived ass!

Re: So what would it take?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Oh, good! Rereading my tl;dr I was a little worried my point may have gotten lost in it and it came across a little wishy-washy. I'm a pretty soft-hearted person in a lot of ways, and I'm all for forgiveness and making peace with people who've wronged you if it's something you feel you need to do, but forgiveness and atonement aren't get-out-of-jail-free cards.

I also agree with others that there was sort of a weird vibe to the question. But it's something I've thought about now and then on this subject as well, so no harm done in giving it the benefit of the doubt, at least to start with. If the OP comes back and tries to stir shit, I'll be less earnest, but since they don't seem to have done so far, whatever.