laziness is such a big feature of abusers, I think and it is quite obvious in Andy as well, as nonnies smarter than me have pointed out - he puts effort into very little (mostly his headgames) and I do believe it's laziness coupled with disregard for other people that drives a lot of heinous shit people like Andy do
(incidentaly, this is how I got out of a different cult-like situation. I got incredibly sick and I was no use - what else I became tiring to be around and my abuser pretty much dropped me. She skulked along the sidelines to see if I get better so she could use me again, but she never regained the level of interest in me)
Re: Lundy Bancroft on what abusers get out of their abuse (and why Andy will never change)
and it is quite obvious in Andy as well, as nonnies smarter than me have pointed out - he puts effort into very little (mostly his headgames)
and I do believe it's laziness coupled with disregard for other people that drives a lot of heinous shit people like Andy do
(incidentaly, this is how I got out of a different cult-like situation. I got incredibly sick and I was no use - what else I became tiring to be around and my abuser pretty much dropped me. She skulked along the sidelines to see if I get better so she could use me again, but she never regained the level of interest in me)