continued Thatfucker discussion

[anonniemouse]

Since we've been kicked off FFA for the week, please feel free to continue the anon discussion here. Apologies if this is a big flop - I've never made a DW community before!

The rules are vaguely the same as they are over on FFA. Please refrain from being too much of an asshole, making personal attacks, posting identifying information or engaging in transfail.

ETA: If there's information you'd like to see archived (journal/blog posts related to Andy, etc.), please dump it here and link to it from the main post for discussing.

Comments

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

:shudder: I read about that final fantasy cult. Sounds unbelievable until you read the stories.

I also second how useful these public (and anon) discussions are for helping people learn about and recognise abuse.
I was never in a cult like scenario but my ex was a narcissistic abuser who was very much like AB in some ways. I was in such an exhausted daze when I got away that it took me a couple of years to realise the abuse extended much beyond the physical violence. Only reading about other peoples experience online helped me put my experience in context and regain my sense of self.

I'd also like to add that no one should feel stupid or responsible for being taken in by these fuckers. They can take you and your life apart before you have chance to get away.

I'm safe now and rebuilding my life, for the record.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

+1

I just got out of a relationship that shares a lot of similarities with these stories although my ex operated in a more mundane way he used a lot of the same tactics. I actually credit reading about this kind of stuff with how fast I was able to start putting things together to see more clearly what was going on after I got some space away from him. I can never thank people enough for sharing what they've been through because being able to regain even a bit of my sense of self so quickly probably saved my life.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

Yay :D ! I obviously have no idea who you are, but I still feel like celebrating your reclaimed freedom :) Happy for you, nonnie, and take care!