continued Thatfucker discussion

[anonniemouse]

Since we've been kicked off FFA for the week, please feel free to continue the anon discussion here. Apologies if this is a big flop - I've never made a DW community before!

The rules are vaguely the same as they are over on FFA. Please refrain from being too much of an asshole, making personal attacks, posting identifying information or engaging in transfail.

ETA: If there's information you'd like to see archived (journal/blog posts related to Andy, etc.), please dump it here and link to it from the main post for discussing.

Comments

Re: A note from the mod

[(Anonymous)]

http://tf-talk.dreamwidth.org/272.html?thread=58640#cmt58640

I agree, but it's a fine line. For example:

Fact: Brittany wrote a letter accusing her father of abuse.

Fact: This fits with Andy's established pattern of alienating children from their parents by creating or exaggerating memories of abuse, and having them write letters to their parents about it.

Speculation: Brittany's accusations of abuse may be partially or entirely fabricated.

Fact: There is no way to know for sure.

As long as the last fact is kept in mind, I don't think you should ban all discussions that deal with elements of speculation. The result may be that actual facts (like the first three) get lost in the process, and in some ways I think that does Brittany a disservice, because in many ways she's Andy's most unfortunate victim. She will never have the chance to reconnect with her parents.

Re: A note from the mod

[(Anonymous)]

*first two facts

Re: A note from the mod

[anonniemouse]

You're right, it's a very fine line.

I'm going to admit that this will be a tricky area for me to mod as the subject of Brittany is particularly sensitive to me. While I never knew her, I feel for her and her family immensely and have a visceral reaction to Andy's exploitation of her death. It disgusts me. Restricting discussion of her is counterproductive as I feel attention deserves to be drawn to Andy's abuse of both Brittany and her memory, but I'd like for us to remain as respectful as we can when she's the topic of conversation. (FTR, I believe we've done well so far.)

TL;DR - The line here is fine, and I can't promise I'll always know where to draw it. I'm going to try not to intrude on speculation unless it begins to feel pointless, invasive or counterproductive.

/new mod is new and trying really hard :(

Re: A note from the mod

[(Anonymous)]

I think you're doing a great job. This isn't easy but you seem reasonable and willing to listen and explain your decisions, which is the most important thing when the "right" answer is really up to interpretation.

Re: A note from the mod

[anonniemouse]

Thank you, nonnie. <3

when the "right" answer is really up to interpretation

I think that's the first lesson I've learned here. At least while I'm the only mod, I'm going to have to go with my own instincts on things and unfortunately, I won't be able to please everyone.

Re: A note from the mod

[(Anonymous)]

All you can do is your best. Hang in there!

Re: A note from the mod

[(Anonymous)]

I agree, too. It's a tough job and so far you've been doing it well. I also agree it's important to treat Brittany with respect.