And following it up with praise, as Molly says he did, makes it really hard to respond in any kind of meaningful way. It's a great way for him to cause harm in ways that he can claim were totally blameless, or even virtuous, after the fact.
Look at comments like "I don't know why people aren't attracted to larger women. What are you, like 250? 275? I mean, people would flip out if you wore a bikini in front of them, or maybe even shorts, right? But I think you're really pretty and it's so brave of you to come out in a dress like that. I really admire you." So he's highlighting the fact that society rejects the person he's talking to, but assuring them that HE doesn't feel that way. So they have no way to respond but to thank him for pointing out most people hate their body just because he tacked some praise onto it. And if they try to make this stop by saying they're uncomfortable or something similar, he can always fall back on "I'm just saying that you're beautiful to ME. It's a compliment. It's such a shame that most people don't like heavy girls - you haven't even been able to learn to take compliments!" Ultimately, a person ends up feeling crushed and defeated but also unable to pinpoint anything Andy did "wrong".
Re: Inducing dysmorphia in plus sized/trans people
I also seem to recall a lot of really disturbing body horror content in his Harry Potter stories that only happened to women. Saying things designed to induce dysphoria/dysmorphia/body horror seems part and parcel of that sadistic fetish, only enacted psychologically on real people rather than physically on fictional ones.
Re: Inducing dysmorphia in plus sized/trans people
"I don't know why people aren't attracted to larger women. What are you, like 250? 275? I mean, people would flip out if you wore a bikini in front of them, or maybe even shorts, right? But I think you're really pretty and it's so brave of you to come out in a dress like that. I really admire you." Holy shit, is this a real quote???
Re: Inducing dysmorphia in plus sized/trans people
I weigh 170 and am 5'11", so I'm assuming either these guys are deliberately guessing high so as to make me feel like I look even heavier than I am or else they have no idea what certain weights actually look like. It really doesn't work on me, as my doctor has assured me that I'm healthy and fit and my girlfriend regularly tells me I'm gorgeous without attaching any "to me" bullshit to it. But I an definitely imagine it working on a woman with lower self-esteem.
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Re: Inducing dysmorphia in plus sized/trans people
(Anonymous) 2018-06-22 04:08 am (UTC)(link)Look at comments like "I don't know why people aren't attracted to larger women. What are you, like 250? 275? I mean, people would flip out if you wore a bikini in front of them, or maybe even shorts, right? But I think you're really pretty and it's so brave of you to come out in a dress like that. I really admire you." So he's highlighting the fact that society rejects the person he's talking to, but assuring them that HE doesn't feel that way. So they have no way to respond but to thank him for pointing out most people hate their body just because he tacked some praise onto it. And if they try to make this stop by saying they're uncomfortable or something similar, he can always fall back on "I'm just saying that you're beautiful to ME. It's a compliment. It's such a shame that most people don't like heavy girls - you haven't even been able to learn to take compliments!" Ultimately, a person ends up feeling crushed and defeated but also unable to pinpoint anything Andy did "wrong".
Re: Inducing dysmorphia in plus sized/trans people
(Anonymous) 2018-06-22 04:18 am (UTC)(link)people rather than physically on fictional ones.
Re: Inducing dysmorphia in plus sized/trans people
(Anonymous) 2018-06-22 04:20 am (UTC)(link)"I don't know why people aren't attracted to larger women. What are you, like 250? 275? I mean, people would flip out if you wore a bikini in front of them, or maybe even shorts, right? But I think you're really pretty and it's so brave of you to come out in a dress like that. I really admire you." Holy shit, is this a real quote???
Re: Inducing dysmorphia in plus sized/trans people
(Anonymous) 2018-06-22 04:35 am (UTC)(link)I weigh 170 and am 5'11", so I'm assuming either these guys are deliberately guessing high so as to make me feel like I look even heavier than I am or else they have no idea what certain weights actually look like. It really doesn't work on me, as my doctor has assured me that I'm healthy and fit and my girlfriend regularly tells me I'm gorgeous without attaching any "to me" bullshit to it. But I an definitely imagine it working on a woman with lower self-esteem.